Friday, April 17, 2009

Is There a "Understanding God's Ways " For Dummies Book?

I have been pretty busy this week....My DH is off and we have been building a fence around the back yard. I was in the city on Monday for a medical procedure and slept most of the afternoon on Monday. Even though I was only out about 45 minutes I was wiped out all day Tuesday.

Wednesday was much better and needed to visit Jean. When I drove up to her house there were several cars in the driveway and my heart went up into my throat. It is over I thought. I hesitated to go in as I did not want to interrupt the family at this hour of their grief. As I sat in my car Jeannie Kay (Jean's Daughter) came out of the house and I rolled my window down and beckoned her to the car. I inquired as to the reason for all the cars? She was getting married ! It was a spur of the moment thing and her and Tony (her soon to be husband) were headed to the court house to pick up the marriage license.

One of the things that Jean has always wanted for a very long time was to see her daughter married to Tony and not just living together. They have been together for over 6 years now.
Tony is a wonderful man and when Jean got sick he and Jeannie Kay moved in with Jean to help take care of her. BUT........ Jean always wanted to see them married.

I prayed and prayed last Sunday, Easter, for the Father to take Jean home. I had my cousin Tisha praying with me that Jean would go home that day........ What a glorious day that would be for Jean, to go to see Jesus on Easter Sunday. I can tell you that I was just a wee bit disappointed that it did not happen. You must understand that I love Jean and hate to see her suffer so. Well........... please pass the "Understanding the ways of God for Dummies" book.

Isaiah 55:8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD
Isaiah 55:9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth , so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

If the Lord had answered my prayer, Jean would have missed the wedding of Tony and her daughter. Something that she has prayed and asked the Father for many years.

I went in the house and visited with Jean for about 1/2 hour while others were waiting for Jeannie and Tony to return to the house. The hospice pastor that has been coming over every other day to check on Jean was going to preform the service. They would marry right there in the bedroom where Jean was laying. I had been working in the yard with Dennis before I took a few minutes to go see Jean so I was not dressed for a wedding. It was just for family and I kissed Jean on the cheek and slipped out.
Hospice is there 24 hours a day now and that was Wednesday morning around 11:00. I have not been over there since and will go tomorrow.

Jean has lost her eye sight but she hears real well and still has her sense of humor. I was standing talking to her sister and Jean lifted her hand and made a yakked yak jester with her hand. Me and her sister, Lynett just laughed.

I will not again pray that the Lord take Jean home, I will leave that most important decision in HIS capable hands. How wonderful does the Father love those that love HIM? HE loves them enough to allow us to stay when all others would pray us gone so that we could experience the answer to a prayer that a mother has prayed for years........... HE loves us THAT much.

I am proud of Jeannie Kay and Tony and after this is all over I will take something over there that they can remember for years, but I think the memories of standing in her dying mothers room and giving her a gift that has no price tag.

Thank you Father God that sometimes the answer to our prayer is NO..

It is Friday night and Jean remains....... I wonder what other prayer HE will answer before HE calls her home.


Karen said...

I love that!! It is so like our God to say "No" and then turn around and do something so wonderful that we just step back and reflect in awe at His love...

I need a copy of that book, by the way....

Denise said...

God is so precious, thanks for sharing this.

"Just Me - NC Beth" said...

We are always trying to "rush" God...yet we wouldn't think of it that way...we're just wanting the best for a friend or family member and asking Him to answer our prayer. That verse says it all...

His thoughts are not our thoughts...

Love you, friend!


Shirley said...

God is still teaching us....we are still learning...what a good lesson...something to remember...I guess we should always pray those prayers...stating "if it be Your will, Lord"...the verse you quoted is so we must keep in mind...He knows what the future holds...we don't...He is an awesome God...Praise His Name!!

Hugs to you, my friend.

Annette said...

Isn't it just like a father to make his child wait for a request when he's just not ready? as we sit and wait patiently or nervously. I often wonder why he does that, well I do know that answer, it's all in his timing, not of ours. I love the veres, I so needed to read them this past week end, but it wasnt in my time to read them then, but it is now. All in his timing again, and Thank you Lord, I love you!! I will have to post about it now, something is wanting me.
I love you Denise~

Tracy said...

Mmmhmmm Thank the Dear Lord that He does say NO, and YES in his timing. What a wonderful post Denise. You are such a blessing to so many of us here in blogger land. You continue to be in my prayers my friend. May your weekend be one full of blessings, and happiness.

Roxanne said...

Do you have an extra book? I sure could use it at times. I think the sequel to that book is "God's Grace for Dummies".
Blessings and thanks for sharing.

Cora from Hidden Riches said...

I'm with Roxanne ---- I need one of those books, too! Thanks for the reminder that God DOES have a plan! I thought of that old hymn where it says, "What He takes and what He gives us -- from the Father's hand so precious. . ." Thanks for sharing today!

2nd Cup of Coffee said...

What a poignant post. thanks for sharing. And I'm curious to know why you lived in England in the 60s.

Sharon said...

God still amazes me with his care and concern over our deepest desires. It is so wonderful that she saw her prayer answered!

Love Bears All Things said...

This is so great! I thought there was probably unfinished business that was keeping her here. What a blessing that her children finally gave her what she desired. I'm sure she felt at peace about that.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Mama Bear

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Diane said...

We just learn all the time, don't we. We just go along thinking we know and boom, we find out that we don't. Have a blessed Sunday.

Mary said...


I'm so glad that Jean's prayers were answered and that Jeannie Kay and Tony are now married in the eyes of God. What great gift could they have given to Jean?

I am praying for Jean, her daughter and you, my friend. God will take Jean home when it is time. He knows the exact moment that she will meet him.

It's been beautiful weather here the last couple of days and I hope you are having the same.


'Tart said...

That is beautiful! And as always, a good reminder.:)

Oh Sew Good said...

What a beautiful love story. I'm happy for Jean and her answer to prayer. I can only imagine what she went through and the thrill to see her heart's desire fulfilled.

JC said...

If such a book existed it would be a sell out. God is so wonderful in his ways but I admit for the most part I don't understand. Have a great rest of Sunday.

LisaShaw said...

Precious sister, every time you share another important and precious part of this beautiful Jean Journey in the LORD; I am completely moved to tears and blessed in my soul.

I pray for the couple to live in the things of God and their marital covenant to be blessed as they have given this precious gift to their Mother/Mother in law.

God's timing is SO perfect.

Ok, I'm next for the dummy book because goodness knows I need it :) Love ya.

SweetAnnee said...

God is so good, He has a plan for us..and It is for the good.
I'm praying for Jean.. a wedding is a blessing!!

Love you

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

A beautiful and tender moment for Jean and for all of you who are holding her before the throne! You are being a good servant and a good friend, Denise. Thank you for your willing heart.