Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Disappointed ? Then Grieve

AND GREAT EXPECTATIONS BRINGS GREAT GRIEF


When Others Disappoint  You-------   Grieve------

"Trust in Him at all times, O people; Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us." Psalm 62:8 (NASB)

I read the most wonderful devotional the other day and it brought understanding to my spirit man. I have put a link at the end of this post if you would like to go and read…….


We as Christians learn many things along this walk with Christ. Lessons learned through heartache are lessons remembered. I have been told many times to expect others to do something is just a way of setting yourself up for disappointment.
I did not listen. Many many times in my Christian walk I have set myself up an many of those times I had disappointment.That is where I have been for the past couple of months now and the grief that the disappointment has brought  great grief.
Something that I did learn many years ago but failed to bring it to my memory is that we Christians expect everyone to act according to the Christian standard. Everyone cannot, without the Holy Spirit to lead and guide and direct them they will live according to their nature and not the nature of God.  

The Holy Spirit in our lives is there to keep us yes, but HE is also there to lead us,to bring us to repentance. HE is there to bring us to maturity in Christ where self becomes less and Christ becomes more.  To teach us to give out of ourselves for others and to think of needs of others before we think of needs our ourselves.

  We have been born again. Now we are no long of the seed of Adam, but of the linage of Christ, born of incorruptible and not corruptible. Born with all the attributes of the Christ and imparted to us the gifts of the Holy Spirit by which we bless those around us.
That is the goal of the Holy Spirit, to bring us to the place that we are a blessing and not looking to be blessed. 

The world on the other hand an those that abide there do not have the Holy Spirit as a guide and counselor. They are doing exactly what they were born to do. Serve self.  We should not expect a Zebra to take on the characteristics of an Elephant.
A Zebra is born a Zebra  and is going to act like a Zebra. Those in the world are born of the seed of Adam and contained in that seed is sin and all of the attributes of the human race.  We must not and cannot expect them to do or act any other way. 
I got caught up in that this past few months and I saw the Father God open doors that was unmistakeably open doors for another to bring about great blessing. I talked and talked about what the Lord was showing me and what the possibilities would
come from going through that door. The Father God was offering a multitude of blessings just behind that open door.

Restoration of a family, a life changing opportunity for the one to whom the door was opened for.Unimaginable blessing and help to the one sitting just inside that door and reconciliation between two women whom have much heartache that could have been mended.
I had NO comprehension of someone not being able to see that open door. I had great expectations and held tight to that, even when everyone around me said that I would just end up being  hurt, I held fast. It was only just a few days later that the Father God went a step further and close two door in that persons life. They were unmistakably closed door,with the only way of escape , the open door here. They declined. 

I have spent the last 4 months or so with great grief over my great expectations. I have cried and asked the Lord why. Over and over and over......  Why do they not see,why was is right before their eyes and they did not see. We expect others to live and walk as we walk as Christians and they just cannot and we are in the wrong to place upon them something they cannot do. Even if that person is a believer we must not expect them to see what the Lord is trying to show them. We must let the Father God bring them to maturity. That is HIS job.
It is for us to pray that one day they will know the joy that comes by being a blessing to others. I had to repent and then grieve and never again expect others to do what they cannot.I will trust the Father God and the Father God alone for HE never fails and I will pray for the one to whom I expected more than they were able to do.After reading the devotional link below a few times I let go. It was time for grieving for a season but it is now time and for me to move past that grief that my Father God understands, it is time to just let go. 

Take the time to read the devotional. 


It is very short, but it will bless you as it did me. A link to the devotional. Read it when you get time.
Denise