Monday, December 1, 2008

I Cried and Cried

I cried and cried today like I have not cried in a long time........... My sweet little Mom was so mistreated today and it threw her into a state that I have never seen.
If you have been reading my blog for a while you know that me and my husband and brother Paul and his wife Alpha have been taking care of my Mom and Dad for several yeas and the past year and half they have been living right out by my house. After the dust settled and I went back over there to see how she was doing, she was standing on the front porch with no shoes and no jacket. It was very cold today and I gentle spoke to her as not to upset her any further and told her she might need to go inside. I went in and finished their dinner and on my way back to the house from the bottom of my heart came sobs that I could not contain. I just cannot imagine someone taking that precious little woman and manipulating her just to get something. That is what this is all about, it is to get something that Mother owns, and this person is hell bent to get it.

I just cannot tell you how my heart hurts tonight for my Mom, I cannot tell you who did this but they are part of this family............ they read my blog and even now will be writing something to tear me down again......... I just cannot understand why in the world a person that claims to be born again can do that to this precious soul. This person does not care about others only themselves. I have kept to my self a lot about this situation in our family as I do not want to upset Dad....... (he is on the Internet) but this blog is a way for me to talk and share and find some kind of release for these things that hurt our hearts............

I want to pray and forgive and ask God to bless this person and help them to understand the damage they did today............ but some days I do not want to pray............ I do not want God to bless them, I want them to understand what they did today and feel sorry and maybe repent.
Me and PE and Alpha and Dennis are working so hard to keep them safe and well and for someone to do this is far beyond anything that my mind can even imagine.
Tell me ladies, what would you do, how would you handle someone in the family that would have no regard for the feelings of these precious little people in my care. If I were a man and this were a man we would meet in the front yard............. but that cannot happen. I just so covet your prayers tonight ........ Pray for Mom that tomorrow she has recovered and regains some of the mental state that keeps her able to stay out here.............. I am so angry, I am so hurt, I so am still crying............. Ladies, just say a prayer tonight for my Mom.............. I love her so and want her here and happy................

18 comments:

PEA said...

Oh Denise, I'm so sorry something like this has happened...it makes it worse knowing that it's a family member that caused it! Your dear mom, my heart goes out to her. Please know that my prayers are with all of you. xoxo

Janera said...

Denise, I'm also sorry that something has happened to upset your mom and you, too. I know it's hard, but I tend to try to think on the practical side of things sometimes, so I would ask you to consider whether this family member should have access to your mom. Also, I wonder what is going on from the perspective of the family member. For example, do they feel entitled to this thing your mom owns? Why/how? Is there any way to help this person to feel more at ease so they will not feel the need to manipulate your mom?

Does that make sense?

Mary said...

Denise,

I am so sorry and so very angry that anyone would do this to your mother. People are so inconsiderate and many think only of themselves. I will pray that this person will repent and I will also pray that your mother comes to terms with the wrong that was done to her.

My sister was executor of Mom's will and had Power of Attorney. She was telling Mom what she could and couldn't do and Mom was very upset. I talked to my sister, which did no good and it had to come to a confrontation. Then Mom and I went to a lawyer and changed everything so she could do as she pleases. I don't know why I'm sharing this, but for some reason I felt that I should. I hope knowing this helps you in some way.

Keep your eyes on God, my friend. He will deal with it in His own good time.

Love and hugs,
Mary

Linda said...

Dear Denise, I'm so sad someone is upsetting your mom, and even worse a relative. I'm thakful you and your hubby are so near and I hope tomorrow is a better day....you take care too. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers...hugs, Linda

Denise said...

I am very sorry sweetie, you and your mom have my prayers. I love you.

Love Bears All Things said...

Yes, I have a good idea who did this.
I'm sorry it happened. Sometimes, family can hurt us more than strangers. The enemy does all he can to cause rifts in relationships.
I hope today, Mama is feeling better and maybe has forgotten.
I hope you and your brother have taken the legal steps necessary while your parents are still competent to sign papers.

Love you,
Mama Bear

Shirley said...

Dear Denise,
I, too, am so sorry this has happened. I know it must be very hard for you to deal with. The only thing I can say is to trust God. He knows all. I pray that He will comfort, lead and guide you in how to deal with this situation. I know it is hard but I believe that when we seek God sincerely, He will answer. You will be in my prayers and I will be looking forward to a victory post.

God bless.

Sharon said...

It is a difficult situation when it is a family member. My flesh would want to...well, you know. However, God said, "Revenge is mine". I was thinking about situations in the Bible where family hurt family. The best thing is to pray and let God handle it, but also to take necessary legal steps to protect your loved ones without malice. I have a friend who is going through a similar situation in her family. I will pray for you all.

Linda said...

Morning Denise....I hope things are better today.

I've tagged you for a fun Christmas MeMe...I hope you'll join the fun. Hugs, Linda

Mary Isabella and Kiley too! said...

My sweet Denise,
I just read this and will read the other post. I am so sorry for the hurt this has caused you and your Mother and your family. I am praying...Big hugs ...mary

Sharon Brumfield said...

I am so sorry girl. I do hope that things are better this morning.
We had a similar situation with my Mothers side of the family....they never got it. They did horrible things and to this day have not apologized. I wanted revenge so bad..and we could have taken them to court. But Mom knew that it would ruin further opportunity to witness the love of God to them. And so we did not do anything.
For a long time I had to remind myself over and over again that I forgave them. Even today I can not let my mind linger on what happened....God knows.
I pray that you are able to move on in your heart. I know it is hard....but you need to be healthy in your heart. Stand for what is right..but do not sin in your anger. Love you girl...praying.

D said...

I'm so sorry to read this, Denise. ((( hugs ))) I will pray. I myself just promised my mom last week that I'd never let anyone hurt or harm her and that I would be there for her. It would tear my heart apart too so I completely understand. However, I do not think that revenge is the answer -- after all, the Lord WILL deal with all the injustices in His time. That is assured.
D

Flip Flop Floozie said...

You just keep doing what you are doing now for your parents!! They are to be cared for...this is what the bible tells us. You cannot help what other people do. Shame on them for hurting your parents so badly!! I wish there was something that we all could do so we will just pray for this situation. Hang in there...Sandy

Mimi said...

I am so sorry that this has happened to you sweet little mom...
God will deal with that person in His own way...(please try to turn it over to him.. and leave it there)
I know that is easier said than done...but you are the one who has a broken heart....

if this person is so focused on "things" that she would go to the extent of upsetting your mom to get it...she will never get the pleasure out of it that she thinks she will...

just work with your mom and try to keep her comfortable and at peace...and leave this family member to God to deal with...

{{Hugs and prayers}}
Mimi

Donetta said...

This is the model I use

When you..... I feel........and I would rather you fill in the blank.
But if you choose to ....then this will be the boundary I enforce....
Not a threat but a limit to their behavior and your tolerance of it.

Strange thought...
Have you tried to understand why they are the way they are. Hurt people hurt people. healing them may be the help pray for them

Deb said...

So sorry, I started to write my advice. . but you have our Lord to guide you through. . and that is my prayer for you, and your sweet mom.
God is in control, love you my friend.

katie said...

Denise, I just read this post for the first time. I sure hope the situation has gotten better. I know you love your mom and will continue to tell her how much. In the mean time I will be praying for God's hand to be on this situation.

katie

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